25 December 2021
There is a thin smattering of people in the US who genuinely understand the Covenant path of marriage. They understand that marriage is a gift from the Lord, a miracle in its own right.
I'm going to distance myself here from the so-called Men's Red Pill movement. They have an accurate understanding of the dynamics of dating, but their primary goal is good sex. Even the Christian Red Pill writers tend to miss the point that a good sex life is just a side effect of walking in faith in the first place. In the Bible, sex is just a fleshly appetite, like any other, and must be highly restricted in order to make it an engine of blessing.
Just to remind you: sex outside the Covenant is defiling, and makes you the property of Satan. It is quite possible for sex to be redemptive, but too few people even think that way.
I'm not going to tell you that God has made for you one man/woman out there in the world that you are supposed to marry. It's not as if it were some kind of predestination, one divinely matched pair and all else is Hell on earth. The Bible doesn't promote that kind of imagery. Nor will I tell you that there is someone for everyone. Some people should never marry, and that includes having no expectation of sexual fulfillment. There is no divine right for that -- all the more so in times of tribulation.
As far as God is concerned, there are very strict boundaries for sex under His Covenant, and everything else is defilement. For most of us, that means that He can grant us a fine Covenant marriage, but it requires moving early into the right place -- standing in His favor -- before any of the complex factors can coalesce when the time comes. For the vast majority of people coming into the Covenant, you'll be dragging along a less than optimal marriage from outside the Covenant.
It's possible that this defiled marriage can be healed, but there are no guarantees. It's just as much a miracle as marrying well in the first place. There's a wealth of nonsense about that. Churchian marriage counseling is an abomination to God. The few who get it right are hard to find, because they are the same few people who understand the Covenant in the first place.
The Covenant is all about discovering God's design for us all, and then discovering His design for you in particular. The Covenant itself is a grace gift from God. It's not a set of restrictions; it's the way of divine privilege. You should recognize that this life is not that important, except as it serves His glory. This whole business of whining about sexual fulfillment is an embarrassment. The American idolatry of sex has no place in the Covenant.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Even the ostensibly Christian Red Pill men act like their own virginity coming into marriage is a bad thing. They all demand virgins for themselves, but have nothing to offer God on the marriage altar. Rather, they make demands of God that the woman He gives them had better meet their petty lusts. They aren't talking to God; the only one picking up the phone on the other end of that call is Satan. The Devil will offer all kinds of things to pull you off the ground of God's blessing.
Granted, it would take a whole shelf of books to counter all that's wrong with American Christianity, and the marriage mythology is one the most bizarre mishmashes of Satanic nonsense ever seen on this earth. The only reason our society is going to Hell is because it came from there in the first place. It sprouts from seeds of poisonous weeds, yielding thorns and thistles. Walking in the Covenant of Christ demands a radical change, like moving to another planet. The problem is that most of us have been unwilling to change enough.
This is why I keep harping on the need to invest in moral infrastructure. The task before us in restoring the Covenant is a very high degree of personal sacrifice just pulling away from the wrong path. We can never hope to understand how to do it right because we have come way too far down the wrong path. There is no shortcut back to Eden. For Americans it means a very long haul back to where we took the wrong turn. Most of the Red Pill blather presumes a Western orientation, and until we correct that fundamental flaw, we have no business wasting time on the subject.
Guys, get the Covenant manhood issue correct first. You have no idea what a good wife is until you know what a good husband is, and vice versa. Folks, we have not yet resisted sin to the point of shedding our blood. Until we can embrace that standard, we have done nothing that matters.
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